Question: What is Sexual Integrity Essentials?

Answer: Heartbeat International’s Sexual Integrity™ Essentials is a new manual designed to equip your center with the tools you need to develop your own Sexual Integrity program.

The manual includes:

• A comprehensive review of the Sexual Integrity concept and program.
• A companion CD with key tools for use in Pregnancy Help Organizations.
• An in-depth explanation of the Four Biblical Pillars of Sexual Integrity.

Question: What is the difference between Sexual Integrity Essentials and the Sexual Integrity Implementation Manual?

Answer: Sexual Integrity Essentials is a streamlined version of the Sexual Integrity Program Implementation Manual. Sexual Integrity Essentials is more concise, easier to read, and gives you the key information you need to develop a Sexual Integrity program in your center.

Sexual Integrity Essentials:

• Provides an overview of the concept of Sexual Integrity,
• Guidelines for creating a Sexual Integrity program in a center,
• Covers the importance of the Four Pillars,

And includes the following materials:

• Relationship surveys.
• “What about Your Future?” questionnaire.
• “Your Choices Affect your Future” chart.
• “STDs Hurt Real People” chart.
• Guidelines for a successful book club.

SIP Implementation Manual

• Emphasizes the need for a Sexual Integrity program,
• Provides resources to get a program started,
• Introduction to the Four Pillars,

And includes the following materials:

• Relationship surveys.
• “What about Your Future?” questionnaire.
• “Your Choices Affect your Future” chart.
• “Benefits of Marriage for Women and Children” chart.
• “STDs Hurt Real People” chart.
• Invitation to Sexual Integrity DVD.
• When God Writes Your Love Story by Eric and Leslie Ludy
• Single Men Are Like Waffles; Single Women Are Like Spaghetti by Bill and Pam Farrel
• The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman
• “Why Marriage Matters” pamphlet created by the Institute for American Values.

Question: I have the SIP Implementation Manual. Do I need the Sexual Integrity Essentials manual?

Answer: If you already have the SIP Implementation Manual, you do not necessarily need Essentials. Essentials streamlines the program to provide a more concise, easier to read format that gives you the key information you need to develop a Sexual Integrity program in your center. Just as you are free to pick and choose which materials from Heartbeat you use when creating your Sexual Integrity Program, you are also free to choose which manual you choose to use as your primary manual for staff and volunteers.

Question: How long has Sexual Integrity Essentials been out?

Answer: Essentials was first published in November 2012.

Question: Can I still use the other tools I've purchased for the Sexual Integrity Program at my center (DVD series, Brochures, Charting resources, etc.)?

Answer: Yes, Sexual Integrity Essentials provides guidelines for how you can utilize all the resources Heartbeat International has developed as part of the Sexual Integrity Program. Essentials also includes guidelines for selecting additional resources to best suit the unique needs of your center and your clients.

Question: If we've already been trained using the SIP Training Workbook or SIP Implementation Manual do I need to retrain my staff?

Answer: Since the principles of Sexual Integrity are expressed in all of Heartbeat's Sexual Integrity materials, it is not necessary to retrain your staff on Sexual Integrity Essentials. However, to be sure your staff has the latest information related to Sexual Integrity, we recommend that any new staff be trained using Sexual Integrity Essentials. An online training for Sexual Integrity Essentials is available through the Heartbeat Academy.

Question: Do I need to be formally trained?

Answer: No, you don’t need to be formally trained in The Sexual Integrity Program to utilize these resources. We do, however, recommend formal training, whether on-site at your center or at Heartbeat International’s Annual Conference.

Training will help you understand the bigger picture of Sexual Integrity, show you how the Sexual Integrity Program works, teach you how to use all the tools with clients, and give you a good start in implementing the program in your center. Executive directors and others have said formal training has helped staff and volunteers feel more confident working with clients.

A supplementary online training for Sexual Integrity Essentials is also available through the Heartbeat Academy. If you already have the program, but have never been formally trained,contact usfor more information.

Question: What if I have questions?

Answers: We have answers. Heartbeat International’s experienced consultants are available when you have questions or need guidance. We are here to answer your questions to equip you with the tools you need to utilize the Sexual Integrity Program. Contact us for more information by calling (888) 550-7577 or by clicking here.

Question: Is this training the same as Natural Family Planning training?

Answer: Heartbeat’s definition of fertility education is not natural family planning, nor is it helping women achieve or avoid pregnancy. Fertility education is simply teaching a woman how her body works so that she is empowered to respect her body. When women understand this powerful gift they are:

• more likely to choose life for their baby.
• more likely to stop premarital sexual activity.
• more likely to make wiser choices with men.
• more likely to respect their own bodies.

Product code: SIP2-0
Price: $75.00

Staff and volunteers should understand clients’ true reproductive health concerns. This SIP manual includes brochures, sample “Charting Your Cycle,” books on contraception, and CD on reproductive disorders.

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by Jennifer Minor, Heartbeat Editor/Writer

I didn’t really think a lot about my body growing up—unless it was to lament that I wasn’t as pretty as someone else, but that’s another story. Later, I came to see that most people thought about their bodies in one of two ways: as something like a cage for the soul full of temptation or as nothing more than a tool to make them feel good.

When I did start thinking this way, as a good Catholic girl, I went with the first. Yes, my body is a “Temple of the Holy Spirit,” but it’s also a stumbling block on the way to Heaven, right? Yes, it’s “fearfully and wonderfully made,” but that’s more about ME than just my body.

It wasn’t until I was in college that I was first introduced to Pope St. John Paul II’s “Theology of the Body.” Discovering that changed everything.

The basic concept is simple. John Paul II spent about five of his years as Pope sharing his reflections on the creation story in Genesis, which just goes to show you there’s always more to scripture. These short reflections that he shared were eventually gathered together under the title Theology of the Body—and widely ignored for about 20 years.

Fortunately for me, “Theology of the Body” is currently all the rage in the Catholic Church, so I got introduced to the concept about eight years ago, and I’ve been hooked ever since.

In the reading that I’ve done, the talks that I’ve attended, and the homilies I’ve heard on the subject, I’ve been reminded of many things that are often simply overlooked by Christians with “body as cage for the soul” mentality.

The “resurrection of the body” is an explicitly stated belief in the Apostle’s Creed. Jesus, after His resurrection, still has a body and can eat and drink, but it isn’t bound by space or time in the same way we are now, and his followers don’t recognize Him immediately in it. It’s been glorified.

Our bodies matter! And more than that, our bodies are a symbol of our whole selves. My body is a reflection of myself, and I am made in the image and likeness of God.

Knowing this, how could I continue to act as if my body didn’t matter? Or worse, as if it was merely a cage or stumbling block to living a holy life?

No. The way I express myself with my body means so much more than that. The way I dress can tell the people around me how much I respect myself. The way I care for my body—exercising, eating well, getting stronger—is as important as the way I care for my spiritual life—regular prayer, time with God, and practicing silence.

And of course, this means that my body can’t be nothing more than a tool to make me feel good. It’s no mere object for pleasure; if I make it that for any reason, I’m doing myself and everyone involved a great disservice.

I’m grateful to be a woman, and I know that my body is made to be able to bring life into the world. That is an incredible thing!

It’s extremely empowering to know that your body is built to create and sustain life.

But when I look around me, I see that my peers don’t see themselves that way. Their fertility to them is an obstacle, a prohibition against some kind of free expression of their sexuality. But then again, was my perspective so different when I saw my body as only a cage and a temptation?

Falling into thinking of ourselves as only body or only spirit doesn’t work.

I’m living best, and acknowledging the best in others when I remember that human beings are body AND soul. Both have eternal significance, and for me, “Theology of the Body” helped me discover that essential truth, and change the way I think about—and treat—my body.

For more information on the Theology of the Body, check out Fr. Joel’s recorded workshop from the 2018 Heartbeat International Annual Conference How “Theology of the Body” Helps Us Today. You may also be interested in Pia de Solenni’s keynote from the same Conference.

by Dr. Joe Malone, PhD, CFE, LWMC, CPT

A former student of mine and I wrote a book that came out in 2018. In it, we outlined many of the damaging effects of hookup culture. From the research of others (and there are too many to name here) these are some of the low lights we discovered.

First, college women’s, but not college men’s, depression symptoms increase as their number of sexual partners in a year increase. Second, research shows that women take part in this behavior even when they feel uncomfortable doing so. Next, men especially overestimate women’s comfort with hookups. Only 32% of men said they would feel guilty about having intercourse with someone they just met compared to 72% of women. In addition, the percentage of women feeling guilty over hooking up was over twice that of men, as women tend to seek more emotional involvement in sexual encounters than men do. Then this - many young adults and again, especially women, feel compelled to take part in hookup culture. Lastly, most times alcohol is involved. In a study of 118 freshman female college students, 64% of the hookups involved alcohol use. It appears that alcohol is usually required to make especially females willing to engage in sex with someone they don’t really know.

If all of that isn’t alarming enough, let’s finish this only partial list of the negatives with two extremely big ones. Around 80% of sexual assaults on campuses occur during a hookup. In the last 15 years the prevalence of sexual assault against women on college campuses has motivated campus authorities to decry what they identify as rape culture. They are justifiable in doing so as any sexual assault is one too many. At the same time, these same authorities say nothing against hookup culture and actually send a strong non-verbal message through the way orientation is handled with condom distribution and instructions about the student Health Center for STD treatment. This affirms, in reality, that they are expecting college students to be sexually active and that this is just part of the college norm. But, when we look at the above cited statistics on college campuses these days, hookup culture is for all practical purposes fueling rape culture.

As already mentioned, a major harm of hookup culture is of course, STDs. Largely because of hookup culture-promoted promiscuity, STD rates have been skyrocketing. They hit their highest levels ever in 2015 and continued to climb. Presently, one in two sexually active people will have an STD by age 25. The 15 to 24 age group makes up 53% of the gonorrhea cases and 65% of the cases of chlamydia. Once again, STDs are more dangerous for women. Currently HPV is the most common STD in America. Both men and women can get HPV, but women are 125% more likely than men to have HPV develop into cancer. The CDC states that a female’s anatomy can place her at unique risks for STD infection in comparison to a male.

As an example, one of my students who I had in class in 2007 gave me permission to share her story. She was a somewhat typical sorority sister who drank and was sexually active. Without realizing it, she contracted HPV. She married after college and had two little boys. About eight years out of college she found out that she had cervical cancer and had to have everything, but her ovaries, removed. It was a very scary, possibly life-threatening experience for her, and she felt fortunate that she and her husband had completed their family before she had to have a hysterectomy. There are many more harms and related heartbreaks that we could list here.

I recently listened to a podcast called Just Sex that I found very curious and even disturbing. The promotion said that it concerned hookup culture on college campuses. One of the first statements it made was that there are certain ideas that send the media into a panic, one of them being hookup culture. The inference was that hookup culture is routinely demonized by the media when it is really not that big of a deal and the panic is unjustified.

From there it went into an interview with the author of a book on hookup culture. What I found curious, and quite frankly disturbing, was that from that point on, despite the opening expectations that hooking up is just what young people do these days and that it is normal human behavior, nearly every observation of it showed how negative and unnatural it is, with so many demonstrated harms. The harms being especially hurtful to young women. As a matter of fact, they flat out stated hookup culture does not serve women well. This is where I could find complete agreement, because I believe hooking up fundamentally goes against the woman’s sexual nature.

As I listened, I found their seeming approval to be paradoxical. It soon became clearer though why this might be. They pointed out that hookup culture had come from the 1960s Sexual Revolution and feminist movement. (I had a suspicion that anything that originated with those movements would not be criticized by these two people for deeply held, shared political reasons.) They went on to discuss many, many negative effects of hooking up. For instance, hookup culture says you should be embarrassed for having feelings and feel weak for wanting connection. The author stated that hookups are decidedly not about finding any kind of romantic connection. They had an example interview of a young woman who felt that she was being used in hookup culture, but she also felt she had no choice other than to be used. They stated that the worst thing you can be called in hookup culture is not a slut or even a prude, but you must avoid at all costs being labeled desperate. They also stated that hookup culture demands carelessness, rewards callousness, and punishes kindness. And the misery of living in hookup culture does not end there. They stated that it is important that hookups be meaningless. In fact, ironically, and nonsensically in a normal world, they stated that people generally will have sex with people they don’t like, and not have sex with people they like. They said loving behaviors and mutual respect are to be limited to relationships. A concluding thought was if a woman wants to be respected, she must either opt out of hookup culture altogether or expose herself by hooking up for a period where she just accepts the disrespect.

The book was published in 2017 and the interview was done around that time. At one point during the interview the author did characterize hookup culture as “toxic.” Even so, in this 2021 update to her research to see how the pandemic may have affected conditions, instead of hookup culture being described as the generally hurtful and heartbreaking phenomenon that it is, and calling for a movement against it, it was stated that students in 2021 just want safer, more accountable, and more pleasurable hookup experiences.

The concept of the entire validity of hookup culture was still not questioned or challenged. To me, with all the emotional/mental, as well as physical health problems that hookup culture generates, especially for young women, it would only make sense to build a movement back to romance.

In my own personal research that I conducted in 2019 and 2020 on 437 college students at a large Southeastern University, I found that 60% of the men wanted no part of hookup culture, and 80% of the women wanted nothing to do with it. At the same time, 97% of both sexes said that they wanted more romance and real love in our society. Again, maybe it is time for a Romance Revolt in which young adults unhook from hookup culture and find real love! This would be in direct contrast to what right now many young adults find themselves in, what should be more accurately labeled “hookup hell” on campuses around the world. After viewing all of the damage and destruction caused by hookup culture itself, lets call it what it is - Hookup Hell -and strategically learn to avoid it (like COVID) especially by young women who deserve far better!

Dr. Malone holds a Ph.D. in Health and Human Performance with a specialization in sexual wellness. He has presented at Vanderbilt and Princeton as well as other major universities. Joe served on the CDC Initiative for STD Prevention for Tennessee. His wife of 44 years Jody and he founded the nonprofit Sex IQ: https://www.sexiq.org/